May 9th, 2013 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I just moved in with my boyfriend who has a lesbian roomate I cant stand.

She constantly asks him how her boobs look with that shirt, is messy and inconsiderate with him. He says shes like a little sister to him, and he couldn’t kick her out even though he doesn’t need her money.

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January 2nd, 2013 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I sent you a message on Twitter saying that I might have a Dear Miss Jia letter after I was 100% sure on something and almost 5 days ago, I got a confirmation.

My fiancé and I have been together since high school (sweethearts). He asked me to marry him last Christmas. I was pretty shocked that he even asked because we have talked about marriage before and pretty much agreed that as long as we’re together and loyal to one another, we don’t need a piece of paper validating that. Anyway, we have a pretty active and healthy sex life…nothing too kinky, but maybe a little while before he popped the question, he asked me what my thoughts were on threesomes.

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November 2nd, 2012 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear MIss Jia,

I am a black woman looking to date out of my race. I don’t want to date black men anymore. I want to know how to get a white guy to come up to me. All they would do is look at me. I wish they get pass my looks. What should I do? Thank you for your help!

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I’m fresh out of answers on this one, but happy Friday, everyone!

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September 15th, 2012 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I don’t even know where to begin. Let me start by saying that I really would love to hear your view of this situation I’m about to share. I have been in an on and off relationship with a woman for a little over 2 years now. For the sake of concealing her identity we’ll call her Willow. We attend an HBCU in Louisiana. She graduated with her Masters this past May. She’s from Ohio and I’m from Louisiana. A family member fell ill after she graduated so she decided to leave her job in Louisiana and move back to Ohio. That was cool with me. Family first..I understand. What the fuck I don’t get is this shit…A few weeks after she moved back she calls me and tells me that her homegirl who she went to high school with is pregnant and they decided that Willow would help raise the child as his other parent since his father is not in the picture.

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March 1st, 2012 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I always read your advice emails but never thought I’d ever email you, but after talking to my friends and getting absolutely NOWHERE i figured why not.

I have a best friend. We’ve been besties for maybe a little over a year. We are hardcore real friends. We tell each other everything. From girls/boys to family issues we both have going on. We hold nothing back and even if what we have to will piss off the other off we still tell each other the honest truth.

Jia pretty much EVERYBODY that knows us either tells us we should just become a couple or just have sex we never crossed that bridge. We always tell them no we just really best friends and we are. I don’t trust people at all and I trust him 100%. We both have argued with other people over each other hell I even fought a girl for him. ( mind it we’re young. I’m 22 and he’s 20.. Lol so yes that fight with her was SERIOUS )

Anyways, sometime last week we got on the subject of sex. Which isn’t our of the normal because we sext each other all the time and that’s one of the reasons people go “how have y’all NOT had sex?” but we were sexting as normal and I thought that was it. But no that night we saw each other and it was so different. It was like I was with my BOYFRIEND not my best friend and before I even really realized we were having sex. And.. I can’t lie it was soooo good! And before I use to always joke with him and say his sex must be serious because he have girls hooked!

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January 25th, 2012 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I know you and your readers get frustrated by the run around in these letters, so I’ll keep it simple. My partner (I am a lesbian) and I have been together a few years. We live together and almost two years ago, had a commitment ceremony that made it official…at least in our eyes.

Since we’re both in really good places in our lives, we decided that it was time to expand the family. Of course we could’ve adopted but I felt that since I “play the role” of the woman in the relationship and had good working lady parts (for lack of better words), why not let me have the child?

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October 11th, 2011 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,

I’m writing to see if you and your readers could share your expert opinions with me! I feel like I’m literally going crazy over here! Lol. Hope its not too long! I’m just gonna jump right into it, but where do I begin…

So, I have this really good friend who I met back in high school. We weren’t really all that close back then, which I often regret, but there was DEFINITELY mutual love and respect in the midst. Ever since the first day I met her in our 6th hour English class I was hooked. I dug her laid back personality, her semi stud-like appearance and her killer smile, anchored by two perfect little dimples. There was something that I just HAD to get to know more about in her. At the time, I was still trying to figure out my own sexuality and was really unsure, and even insecure about myself as a person, let alone dealing with being a lesbian. Sn: With the upbringing I had, homosexuality is SO a “no go”. Anyway. All during our junior year, I’d be stuck in class with her practically drooling over this cute little African hottie slash transfer student like ALL THE TIME. lol. And I was miserable. Seriously miserable.

But nevertheless, my friend was there, so I dealt with it. Unfortunately, our time together was short lived. She was only at my school for a year. Due to her personal living situation, she was forced to move from city to city on a regular. So, when I found out that when wouldn’t be coming back to spend senior year with me I was heartbroken. I just knew I would never get the chance to tell her how I felt about her since day one. As a last ditch effort to keep a connection, I wrote her a short and sweet little note. It pretty much just said how I regretted not getting to know her more and “don’t be a stranger.” I closed it with a reminder that I’m just a phone call away. Sadly, she never called.

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August 29th, 2011 | Posted by Miss Jia | Posted In Ask Miss Jia

Dear Miss Jia,
First off I want to say, I’m sorry if this letter is reallly long. I have tendencies to ramble. Yes, even in an email I ramble. Second I love your site & I loved following you on twitter before I deleted my twitter. I use to get so excited when you’d respond back. But.. to my letter. Which is funny because once upon a time we actually tweeted about.this..but anyhow.

I’m 20 and for almost four years(September 4) this guy & I have been..”dating”. Which is fine I’m not that anal about titles, I’m more of a feelings type of person. A title doesn’t mean happiness. But..he has a “girlfriend”. I know Jia..I know. They’ve been together..four years. So yeah we’ve all been on this journey together a while.

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