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Dear Miss Jia,

I am a HUGE fan of your site and LOVE watching your YouTube videos. You keep it real and I really love visiting your site.

I met a handsome gentleman a while ago and decided that he was “the one”. Everything was smooth and he happened to be single. We discussed exactly what we wanted/ needed from a partner and discovered that we’re looking for similar things in life and relationships. The pain point for him is that he travels a lot and wanted to make sure that he was with someone who understood that. My response was that i am fine with alone time as long as he was being honest, didn’t have a second life in whatever state or country he was visiting and our communication was strong. At this point, he mentioned that he is sometimes bad at communicating but would “work on it”. All smiles so far.

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Dear Miss Jia,

I don’t know where to start so I guess I’ll just jump right in. I met this great guy online….We have been talking for 5 months now….I will be meeting him in a couple of weeks. We talk everyday, exchange pics, etc. My problem is that I think when he meets me that he may not like me as much. Why? My teeth. They’re not up to par.

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Dear Miss Jia,
I want to thank you for your gossip site. It is a breath of fresh air when compared to some of the others. Keep up the good work! I wanted to write you and hope that you could shed some light on whether or not I’m being petty. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years. VERY early on in our relationship, we discussed marriage. It wasn’t necessarily a talk about marrying EACH OTHER but we talked about feelings towards that sort of commitment. We seemed to be on the same path, so I felt confident in dating him for the long term.

Wednesday night, we (along with four other couples) went bowling. We were having a good time and everything and then suddenly, everybody started smiling at me and acting really weird. Next thing I know, my boyfriend was down on his knee and proposing to me.

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Dear Miss Jia,

I need your insight on something. I’ve been hanging out with this guy I met at school last semester. We’ve been hanging out for a couple months and I actually really like him, even though he’s not my normal type (which may actually be a good thing, as my track record isn’t the most impecable). We were in a play together because Theatre is our major so that right off was a big plus for me. He has his own place, his own car, and just has his ish together, which is DEFINITELY not what I’m used to. Everything is great except one thing: he doesn’t want a girlfriend.

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Dear Miss Jia,

I’ve recently started going to your website and I have noticed that your advice is non-biased and that you have a genuine concern for the well being of others.

I have a major problem. I met a young, very energetic man about 6 months ago. We both got the necessary blood test ect. and are both healthy. After our test we began having unprotected sex with the agreement that he would pull out.

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Hey, Miss Jia! Love your site, visit it everyday & voted for you for the Black blog awards.

Anyway, I need your advice. Im fairly new to the dating scene. I was married at age 18 (Im now 30) & have been separated for the last 2.5yrs & am currently in divorce proceedings. So, I had to learn “The Rules” all over again & I think I can spot red flags pretty easily.

I met a 47 y/o Black male who currently teaches school & has a Master’s in History. He was a preacher for 17 yrs before teaching. He went through a horrible divorce– his wife cheated on him for at least 6yrs (at least thats what the phone records show from 2001, they divorced in 2007). They had a set of twin girls in 2001 & I know that he questions the children’s paternity but I never bring it up. He is paying $700/mo of child support for the twins & his oldest dtr, which he has trouble paying so the ex will try to start fights with him if she doesnt get the full amount. He stayed in his home so after a $1,000 mortgage + child support, I know it must be hard with a teacher’s salary.

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Dear Miss Jia,

I recently started visiting your site and thought that the ASK Miss Jia section would be wonderful to get some unbiased advice on an issue that has been bothering me for the last week or so.

My boyfriend and I have been together just under 2 years and we plan to take the next step in our relationship by moving in together, sharing finances, etc. I recently invited him to attend an event with me. The event had a reasonable admission fee and throughout the weeks, I kept reminding him of the cost.

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Dear Miss Jia,
My wife first introduced me to your site, now I have become an official Miss Jia follower. Normally I would seek advice from those who I surround myself with but this situation is a lost cause. Recently my wife graduated top of her class earning her M.D. in Pharmacy, accepting a position with Walgreen’s. Her annual income to gross is anywhere from 75,000 to 80,000 a year. As you know when you are married, your gross income is combine to make one.

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